Social Media and the Single Gringo

I discovered the internet early, sometime back in the mid 90s. Even before I got internet access, I had begun to make friends online. I was still ONLY in my 40s, and my social life wasn’t TOTALLY miserable (yet) but I realized quickly that there were some definite possibilities to ‘hook up’ using this here computer and a modem.

When I got actual real-time internet, things got even more interesting. I found myself flirting with women all over the world, none of whom I would ever have met in so-called ‘real life.’ Quite a few of the females interested in me were around my own age, but I discovered that age wasn’t quite the barrier it seemed to be in my home town ramblings.

I was almost resigning myself to being a middle-aged geezer when I found young women who didn’t seem to realize I was over the hill. Not to drag this out, but with a little travel I was able to meet several women over the course of a few years, some less than half my age. One of the high points was a trip to Brazil and meeting up with two 21 year-olds who were happy to know me in the Biblical sense. This here internet thing was kinda cool.

Fast forward to the present, and the internet has morphed into an amazing tool for singles all over the world, not to mention those who might not be single but are still looking for ‘a little fun.’ There are pay dating and matchmaking sites, the ever-popular Craigslist, and the latest-thing, social media sites, which mix a little of this and a little of that but definitely have resulted in some connections and undoubtedly a few babies being born.

So with all this going on, it’s no surprise that Costa Rica is jumping in with both feet. Since it’s not quite cutting edge or terribly affluent, Costa Rica has come a little late to the party, but I have noticed that even girls without telephones can be found with Facebook accounts (among others). There are several more popular sites among Latinas, which would include Badoo and Tagged. Tagged can be rather interesting as you can scroll through pictures and say whether you are ‘interested’ or not. It’s rather fun just to look at the pictures, and once in a while somebody YOU find attractive might find YOU attractive as well.

I generally don’t pay much attention to such things because they don’t serve much purpose for me since I’m not looking for a girlfriend and I can find all the attractive ‘for pay’ options I need. For others it has worked out pretty well, especially the guys under 50, the younger the better it seems to work. At the other end of the scale you have older duffers such as myself. I get plenty of friend requests and ‘interested’ notices, but amazingly enough, most of the women are not Miss Costa Rica contestants. Perhaps their granddaughters might qualify…

Living in a foreign country as I do, Facebook is a nice way to keep in touch with old friends back in my former stomping grounds, as well as quite a few internet acquaintances I have made over the years. As a result, my ‘friends’ list is pretty big, on its way to 300 soon enough. And something happened that I wasn’t expecting, though now that I think about it, it was almost inevitable: Ex-girlfriends and ex-flirtations have contacted me and at least two are, for lack of a better word, ‘chasing’ me.

Both of them are quite likable and were quite sexy 20 or 25 years ago. For women in their 50s, they still look pretty decent, but… But bottom line, I just have no desire for even a meaningless affair with a woman my age, let alone wanting to settle down with one. I wasn’t quite what they wanted back in the day, and the ‘window’ for anything to develop closed at least 10 years ago, probably more.

I know guys who have reunited with their high school sweethearts after 30 years and seem quite happy. I know guys who have been happily married for 30 or 40 years, even though the wife isn’t the hottie she used to be. Honestly, I think they are fortunate, in a way. If I could be happy with a ‘nice’ older woman, I would have no problem finding one. But the fact of the matter is that I am not looking for somebody to grow older with. I know I can’t help growing old, I see the evidence every day in the mirror. But I’m not ready to give up the company of pretty younger women.

Luckily for me, I don’t have to.

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  1. Get connected with the right set of local girls on Facebook and then just send friend requests to her friends. It works very quickly.

  2. going to Jaco this saturday are there any MPS in jaco please let me know thanks gringo traveler

    • thomasobrien says:

      Short answer, no. Plenty of working girls hang out in the bars during daytime though. If they are sexy and smile back when you smile, chances are good they are on the market.